FAQ
I’ve written about my background and why we’re here a few times (see the post links at the bottom of the page), but you may still have questions. Hopefully, this page helps! If I haven’t answered something you’re curious about, please hit the Contact link above and send me a note — I’d love to hear from you. Other people probably have the same question, so I’ll do my best to answer it, and if it makes sense, I might even add it here.
Who are you?
I go by "Chief Pantyist" here on Logical Delicates. While I definitely enjoy open and honest discussion of these issues, most of the people in my IRL circle of friends would find everything about this topic to be too much information. So I tend to keep my real identity and my online identity distinct. It avoids putting people I care about into an awkward situation where they know something about me they don’t want to know. I believe strongly that it is unkind to force private decisions on others, so I like to keep the openness to those who want it — like you here, reading this page! If "Chief Pantyist" is a bit too much to type, you can just call me "CP" or "Chief" if you want. I tend to go with "CP", but I’m not picky.
Is this blog about sex or kink?
No. Because the subject matter is underwear and the general curiosity about a man wearing panties is real, I will sometimes have to address things that land us solidly in PG‑13 territory. I try to be honest and clear without being crass. That can be a fine line, though, so please bear with me if I get that balance wrong somewhere.
My purpose is to discuss comfort, fit, and personal choice around underwear, particularly my choice to wear panties. That will involve reviews from a man’s perspective, context that might be helpful, things like that. But no, this isn’t about kink or sex. Please take that elsewhere if that is your interest. I’m not upset with you — this just isn’t the place. Thanks!
Are you selling anything?
No. Unless I am very clear about it on this blog, I will never attempt to sell you anything related to any of the topics here.
Will you accept items for review or in gratitude?
This gets us onto some shaky ground, and there are two different categories of people to respond to here.
If you are a manufacturer or retailer and want to send me something to review: I haven’t done this before, but if you want to send me an email (using the Contact link above), I’m happy to chat and see if that is something that will work for both of us. Please know that if I ever entertain this, I will disclose that it was given to me and do my best not to let that influence my review at all.
If you are an individual wanting to send me something: I think it’s probably best if we avoid that. As I’ve said, this isn’t about kink, and I’m in a very happy and committed relationship. If you appreciate what I’m doing here, send me a note and let me know — it will make my day. But physical goods are probably best as things we each get for ourselves. I hope that is clear enough without going into detail.
Why do you wear panties?
That’s a longer answer. I wrote a whole post about it here.
So are you gay/trans/femme/bi/fluid/whatever‑other‑term?
Put simply, no, I’m not. I am very much a man (biologically and socially) and very much enjoy women. Actually, one woman in particular, but she doesn’t want to be a point of focus here, so I won’t go into detail on that.
To address this a bit further, this is actually part of why I wanted to start this blog. The assumption that a man wearing panties must be
Do you have a panty fetish?
This isn’t an easy thing to answer. What people consider a “fetish” varies a lot. Maybe the best I can do is to say that my preference for wearing women’s panties is not related to any sexual proclivities nor kink‑related behavior. Feeling comfortable and confident, though, does contribute to libido, so there isn’t a complete lack of connection either.
Ok, but seriously, do you get turned on by panties?
Sigh. Ok. I like panties. I like them on me for comfort and practicality. I like them on women for... other reasons. But if I reflect on it honestly, I believe that what I really enjoy is the woman in the panties. Of course, there’s something alluring about smooth curves and soft colors delicately worn. But the true object of my desire isn’t the panties. Having said that, would I rather see my partner in a bra and panties than in some other type of lingerie? Yes. Clearly, I do like panties. Just, I think, not in a kinky way. Hopefully that clarifies.
How many pairs of panties do you have?
I have mumble, mumble pairs. Um. More than I need. Look, ownership of something enjoyed can be its own reward, ok? Even if I don’t wear all of them as much as I should. And we’re not even going to talk about the total value of my collection. So don’t ask.
So how much have you spent on panties, anyway?
Sigh. I said don’t ask. Truthfully, I don’t know. Probably more than you. Underwear may just be a practical necessity for many, and that’s fine, but for me it fills that role as well as one of collecting and enjoyment. So we won’t add up my spending, and I won’t ask about your hobby spending either. Deal?
What cuts do you like?
Quick aside for those who don’t know: “cut” just refers to the style or shape — the size and angle of the leg holes, the coverage in the back, stuff like that. “Bikini” and “thong” would be two very commonly known cuts.
For me, I’ve found that I like a few broad categories of features. Those characteristics can show up in many cuts, so I’m not as picky about a specific cut itself. I tend to shy away from strings unless I’m really just going for fun and don’t care about practicality. A proper waistband is ideal. I also can’t work with anything approaching “boyshort” cuts — if the legs extend down to or below the gusset, it’s almost certainly not going to work for me. In terms of coverage, I’m not very picky. There are times I’m in a full‑coverage mood. Other times I like the openness of a cheeky or even thong cut in the back.
Do you wear lingerie too?
Well, if you mean do I venture into panties that favour style and “sexiness” over practicality, then sometimes. It really isn’t that practical for my daily life, it usually sacrifices something in comfort, and my partner doesn’t care one way or another. So if I’m just in a mood for whatever reason, maybe I’ll pull out a pair of lace panties or something with a bow and ribbons. But it’s rare. I spend a lot more of my time wearing and thinking about styles I can wear every day.
If, however, by “lingerie” you mean bras and teddys and garters and various other pieces typically associated with sexy women’s attire, then no, not really. If my partner wanted to play around with it for fun, I would have no objection to trying stuff on for her, but it would just be about her interests at that point. It doesn’t do anything for me one way or another to wear that stuff. Since she doesn’t care and it is generally just uncomfortable for “real life” wear, I don’t really bother.
What about colors? Do you avoid “feminine” colors?
I’m not sure what a “feminine” color is. I’m going to assume you mean pinks and purples, but some might include any pale color, pastels, or certain shades of almost anything. I can’t be bothered to keep up with what people think is “feminine” or “masculine” in color. I just wear what I like, and I like color. Period. So yeah, I have pinks and purples. I have pastels and stripes and patterns and whatever else you can come up with. I don’t like everything, but I’m not super picky either.
Let me put it another way. Is blue a “masculine” color? If so, should women not wear navy panties? I certainly see plenty of navy options out in the market, so I assume women are wearing them. If they can wear a solid, deep blue that would fit perfectly fine on a pair of men’s underwear, why can’t I wear pink or purple, exactly?
I don’t know many men who would want to be caught wearing pink panties.
Well, that’s not really a question, but I guess I can respond to it anyway. That’s fine, if they don’t want to wear them, then they shouldn’t. I do want to wear them, so I do.
But I think the implication here is that because I want to wear those things, I’m not a “real” man. That is a No True Scotsman fallacy. Obviously, I am a man. I was born one and have always been one, so no matter what your political or social views, it would be hard to defend an argument that I am not a man. But I am a man who isn’t afraid of enjoying traditionally “feminine” things. I can enjoy soft, cute, colorful things and still be a man. I don’t replace my manhood with those things. They add to it. Trust me: any ladies who want to come do the “Ugh, men” eye‑roll with my partner, she could easily and happily join you without hesitation. But we can also enjoy a cute underwear display at the store together. It doesn’t have to be a dividing line.
Hm. Ok. I’ll ask more questions if I think of them.
Great! I’m happy to entertain questions and answer as much as I’m able. Reach out any time and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.
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